A Gillmore diversion


If you asked me to discuss The Gilmore Girls with you eight months ago, I would have had no idea what you were talking about.

My 16-year-old daughter introduced me to the series and it became a mother/daughter thing. So, a few times a week we set aside time to catch up on the seven seasons we missed. (Ok, so we may have missed a few…) We started last spring enjoying lazy afternoons and evenings, watched over the summer when it was too hot to hang out by the pool, spent the early days of fall in front of the fireplace and finished the ‘Revival’ last night, which seemed appropriate given it was based on the seasons.

So, what am I missing? Strong women, strong characters and even good role-models! Now, I understand that characters must evolve based on the author’s interpretation and advancement of the story, but when one of the lead characters, Rory, is given every opportunity possible to a woman coming of age and, in addition, has a mother, Lorelai, who sacrificed all for her daughter, how do you wind up with a thirty-something woman who has no home, no job and finds herself pregnant, which is the closing line of the series? Now, one might ask, why is this important? In the scheme of things, it’s not, but in a private home when you have invested some time with your daughter and have grown to appreciate the discussion it opens up between you and your daughter, it is.

After reading about the writer and learning that, because of contract negotiations in 2006, they stopped writing for this series and it never ended the way she clearly wanted it to (with Rory telling Lorelai she was pregnant) that might have made some sort of sense, given Lorelei’s situation when Rory was in her late teens. At thirty-something, not so much.

So this is what I think, even though no-one asked: the writer remained defiant and this was going to be the ending no matter how many seasons had passed or, given there are no guarantees in life and no-one is guaranteed a job after college, this represents an unfortunate reality of our times. Either way I was disappointed, and it is quite possible that is what the writer wanted.

And, just a side note, sometimes in the ‘Revival’ episodes, it felt like they were trying too hard to prove the series was updated to life as it is today, and less on the characters fully developing – just my opinion.

So, to the writer’s credit, you have given my daughter and me so many things to talk about that we might not have had reason to discuss in a very casual setting. My daughter is strong-minded, as I am, and it is refreshing to be able to get her point of view on the very serious subjects you touched upon without having to face the situations when it’s too late to discuss them.

If I had the opportunity, I would ask the writer to give us another season, for selfish reasons of course, because my daughter is still young enough that maybe a mistake or two can be avoided through discussion.

And, if I had the opportunity, I would thank the writer for the dialogue my daughter and I will forever be able to have in the future when discussing her boyfriends, I can now ask,”so is he a Dean, Jess or a Logan” and know exactly what she is talking about even if she is not with me.